Do you really know who you are? I bet you do! You’re you – you live your life and nobody else can do it for you, right?
I really thought I knew everything there was to know about myself until last week. Talking with someone who knows psychology and who can spot traits and behaviours a mile off is one of the most refreshing things I have experienced to date. I’ve told her pretty much everything there is to know about me and after a few sessions she tells me this – “your core beliefs are shattering your self-esteem.” Those few words just seemed to change everything.
In hindsight it all adds up. Life experiences, daily events, troubles I’ve had – they’ve all been greatly influenced by poor core beliefs; feeling like I’m not good enough and can never be good enough. Now that has been established and I am being shown how to repair those beliefs, I feel like I can ‘cut myself some slack’ and move forward. Of course old habits die hard and sometimes you have to remember the things you’ve learned, but overall there’s that sense of empowerment. Being more in control of your emotions and seeing light at the end of the tunnel.
Do you think negatively about yourself on a regular basis? Do you set yourself high standards that you can’t reach and then brand yourself a failure for not reaching them? Taking care of your emotional and mental health will help you to see that you ARE good enough, and it will help you to set realistic and achievable goals that you will have no trouble reaching. It could be something as simple as making sure you do an hour of housework instead of 3 hours – unless you live in a mansion with an east and west wing, it’s highly unlikely you’ll take 3 hours doing the bulk of your work. By setting that higher target, and with low self esteem, you’ll stress yourself out to a point that you may not even get half an hour’s worth of work done. It’s also about remembering that NOBODY is perfect. We can strive for perfection all we want, but we’ll never get there! Strive for your best and accept that.
I have attached a link to a website all about identifying and changing core beliefs. If your self esteem is at an all time low and you think very poorly of yourself for whatever reason, I recommend you have a look. And if anything rings true, please ask for help. It’s time you took control and started believing in yourself again. You are just as good as everyone else; no better and no worse. I’ll be working on it too, right alongside you, so don’t be afraid to contact me for support 😉